I am learning that trying to be a better person, is way better than actually being the better person. This applies to exercise too: trying to be in shape is better than being in shape.
Let me explain. [for me] Trying automatically puts me in a humble, ‘in-process’, disposition. In the process of trying, one is in a place where you haven’t actually arrived, or achieved. Trying is iterative…
Technically*, trying as an adjective is defined as: “difficult or annoying; hard to endure”, as a verb it is to: “make an attempt or effort to do something”, and as a noun it is: “an act of doing, using, or testing something new or different to see if it is suitable, effective, or pleasant”.
You see all the definitions and permutations of the word have a similar theme, which is that when you are trying, you are ongoing – “continuing; still in progress.”
Contrastingly, when you see yourself as the better person – as opposed to someone who is trying to be one – you [in my opinion] automatically become the worse. I say this simply because being the “better” person automatically puts me into comparison mode, which inevitably puts me in a [bad] competitive mode.
When individuals, groups, nations, even religious organizations believe that they are “the better one”, resentment, animosity, greed, and even jealously is birthed.
Ultimately, if you see yourself as better and you ask yourself: “relative to who/what?” you tend to find reasons to be derogative to that which you are comparing against in order to boost your stance. However, when you are “trying” to be… you will always look to a higher standard – which I think is better.
Besides, we will never be the better person until we are dead and in heaven.
SO yeah… I am trying.
What are your thoughts?
*These definitions were retrieved from the dictionary on my mac which I believe is the OXFORD AMERICAN DICTIONARIES.