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I am learning that trying to be a better person, is way better than actually being the better person. This applies to exercise too: trying to be in shape is better than being in shape.

Let me explain. [for me] Trying automatically puts me in a humble, ‘in-process’, disposition. In the process of trying, one is in a place where you haven’t actually arrived, or achieved. Trying is iterative…

Technically*, trying as an adjective is defined as: “difficult or annoying; hard to endure”, as a verb it is to: “make an attempt or effort to do something”, and as a noun it is: “an act of doing, using, or testing something new or different to see if it is suitable, effective, or pleasant”.

You see all the definitions and permutations of the word have a similar theme, which is that when you are trying, you are ongoing – “continuing; still in progress.”

Contrastingly, when you see yourself as the better person – as opposed to someone who is trying to be one – you [in my opinion] automatically become the worse. I say this simply because being the “better” person automatically puts me into comparison mode, which inevitably puts me in a [bad] competitive mode.

When individuals, groups, nations, even religious organizations believe that they are “the better one”, resentment, animosity, greed, and even jealously is birthed.

Ultimately, if you see yourself as better and you ask yourself: “relative to who/what?” you tend to find reasons to be derogative to that which you are comparing against in order to boost your stance. However, when you are “trying” to be… you will always look to a higher standard – which I think is better.

Besides, we will never be the better person until we are dead and in heaven.

SO yeah… I am trying.

What are your thoughts?

*These definitions were retrieved from the dictionary on my mac which I believe is the OXFORD AMERICAN DICTIONARIES.

5 Comments on "trying"

  • Samuel Wiley says

    The part of this with which I agree the most is about looking to a higher standard. I feel that in times when I have considered myself as “being” rather than “trying to be” something that is good, I can start to become complacent in the progress I’ve already made in that area and sometimes fail to continue bettering myself, which ultimately leads to worsening myself.

    Beautifully written.

  • What I found is that trying to be a better person is like trying to make a dead man sing. I learned that being dead in Christ means…that I’m dead. Really and truly, and not metaphorically. And that being risen with Christ means that He now is the better person in me, really and truly. So I don’t try to be a better person any more. I did that for many years That’s like trying to redeem my flesh, which is corrupting daily until it actually dies (like the real me already is). I stand aside now and allow Jesus to be the better person through me. No use beating a dead horse, now is there?

  • Elena says

    I’d rather spend a lifetime of trying than come to the point where I can say I’ve arrived. The trying is a process, messy yet beautiful, one in which we fall down but are taught to get back up. It’s in the trying that we learn–about ourselves but, more importantly, about the God who meets us there.

    (Great post, Bala!)

  • – I see what you’re trying to say –

  • It’s always good to re-evaluate yourself and always keep trying but I need to say, “you are a better person”. Luv you.


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